Dealing with Emotions

“As time shifts into a higher reality and illusions fade, duality must end, especially within your own beingness where the conscious and unconscious parts of your own polarised self are vying for control. You are a beautiful essence presently enclosed in the trappings of flesh in a play of life which demands you choose one of two directions. Love or fear. Peace or war.”

– Christ Jesus (channelled through Virginia Essene, New Teachings for an Awakening Humanity. The Christ, Spiritual Education Endeavours Publishing Company, Santa Clara, CA, US, p.44).

By Jeshua

Channelled by Pamela Kribbe, 2005

“Throughout many lives you have tried to express your cosmic energy here on earth. And in this expression, in the channelling of your energy to earth, many deep traumas have been built up. The emotional body that you all have is rife with wounds and traumas...

Anyone who walks the path of inner growth knows the importance of emotions: that you should not repress them, that you have to come to terms with them in some way, that you must ultimately release them. But how it all really works is not always so clear...

I first want to make a distinction between emotions and feelings...the nature of emotional energy is: it is an explosion of misunderstanding. Emotions essentially take you out of your centre. Feelings, on the other hand, bring you deeper into yourself, into your centre. Feelings are closely associated with what you call intuition. Feelings express a higher understanding, a kind of understanding that transcends both the emotions and the mind...

Children are honest and spontaneous in their emotions and they do not hide or repress them until adults encourage them to do so. The fact that children spontaneously express their emotions does not however mean that children experience their emotions in a balanced way. Everyone knows that children can be carried away by their emotions (rage, fear or sadness) and are often unable to put a stop to them...So how do you deal with emotions, whether in yourself or in your children?

Emotions should not be judged or repressed. Emotions are a vital part of you as a human being and as such they need to be respected and accepted. You can look upon your emotions as your children who need your attention and respect and your guidance.

An emotion can best be viewed as an energy that comes to you for healing. Therefore it is important to not be completely swept away by the emotion, but to remain able to look at it from a neutral stance. It is important to stay conscious. One might put it like this; you should not repress an emotion, but you should not drown in it either. For when you drown in it, when you identify with it completely, the child in you becomes a tyrant that will lead you astray...

Allowing your emotions in, naming them and making an effort to understand them, means that you truly respect and cherish your inner child. Making the shift from ‘outer’ to ‘inner,’ taking responsibility for the emotion, helps to create an inner child that does not want to hurt anyone else, that does not feel victimised. Strong emotions – whether anger, grief or fear – always have the component of powerlessness, i.e. the sense that you are the victim of something outside of you. What you do when you focus not on the circumstances outside of you but instead on your reaction and your pain is that you ‘dismiss’ the outside world as the cause of your emotions. You do not care that much about what gave rise to the emotion. You completely turn inward and you say to yourself: okay, this has been my reaction and I understand why. I understand why I feel the way that I do and I am going to support myself in this.

Turning toward your emotions in such a loving manner is liberating. It does require a kind of self-discipline. Releasing outside reality as the ‘source of the evil’ and taking full responsibility yourself means that you acknowledge that ‘you choose to react a certain way.’ You stop arguing about who is right and who is wrong, who is to blame for what and you simply release the whole chain of events that happened outside of your control. ‘I now experience this emotion in the full awareness that I choose to do so.’ That is taking responsibility. That is courage!

The self-discipline in this is that you give up on being righteous and on being the helpless victim. You give up on feeling angry, misunderstood and all the other expressions of victimhood that can feel quite good at some times. (Truly, you often cherish the emotions that bug you the most). Taking responsibility is an act of humbleness. It means being honest with yourself, even at your weakest moment.

This is the self-discipline that is asked of you. At the same time, this kind of turning inward requires the highest compassion. The emotion you are honestly prepared to face as your own creation is also looked upon with gentle understanding. ‘You chose anger this time, didn’t you?” Compassion tells you: “Okay, I can see why and I forgive you. Perhaps when you feel my love and support more clearly you will not feel inclined to take that response next time.’

This is the true role of consciousness in self-healing. This is what spiritual alchemy means. Consciousness does not fight or reject anything; it encircles darkness with awareness. It encircles the energies of misunderstanding with understanding and thus transforms ordinary metal into gold. Consciousness and love are essentially the same. Being conscious means letting something be and surrounding it with your love and compassion.

Often you think that ‘consciousness alone’ is not enough to overcome your emotional problems. You say: I know I have repressed emotions, I know the cause of it, I am aware but it does not go away.

In that case, there is a subtle resistance within you to that emotion. You keep the emotion at a distance, from fear of being overwhelmed by it. But you are never overwhelmed by an emotion when you consciously choose to allow it.

As long as you keep the emotion at a distance, you are at war with it. You are fighting the emotion and it will turn against you in several ways. You cannot keep it outside in the end. It will manifest itself in your body as an ache or tension or as a feeling of depression. Feeling down or weary frequently is a clear sign that you are repressing certain emotions...

It is very important to take responsibility for your own emotions and not to make absolute truths of them. When you give them the status of truths, instead of looking upon them as ‘explosions of misunderstanding,’ you will base your actions on them and that will lead to uncentred decisions...

Since the sixties there has been a collective realization that it will not do to suppress your emotions, for then you are stifling your spontaneity and creativity, indeed your very soul. Society will produce disciplined and obedient children who care more for rules than the whispers of the heart and that is a tragedy – for society as well as the individual.

But what about that other extreme: what about justifying emotions in such a way that they take over and rule your life?...

Things may have entered your life path that have justifiably provoked emotions of anger and resentment within you. This may have happened in your youth, later on or even in past lives. It is very important that you get in touch with these emotions consciously and that you become aware of the anger, sadness or any other intensely charged energy within you. But at a certain point, you need to take responsibility for your emotions, for they constitute your reactions to an outside event.

Being centred, being in a state of clarity and spiritual balance, means that you take full responsibility for all the emotions that are in you. You can then recognise the emotion of, for instance, anger within you and say at the same time: this was my reaction to certain events. I surround this reaction with understanding, but at the same time I intend to release it.

Life is ultimately not about being right; it is about being free and whole. It is very liberating to release old emotional responses that have grown into a lifestyle...

Claim your mastership, become the master of the emotional bits and pieces that torment you, often behind your back. Get in touch with them, take responsibility. Don’t let yourself be driven by unconscious emotional hurts that sidetrack you and block your road to inner freedom. It is your consciousness that heals. No one else can restore the power over your own emotions for you. There are no external instruments or means to take away those emotions. It is in becoming aware of them with strength, determination and compassion that they are released into the Light.

Becoming whole and free on the emotional level is one of the most important aspects of growing spiritually. I want to finish by saying: do not make it more difficult than it is. The spiritual path is a simple path. It is about love for yourself and inner clarity. It does not require any specific knowledge or any specific rituals, rules or methods. All things you need for your spiritual growth are within you.

At a quiet moment, go to the feeling side of you. Let this feeling side of you tell you what needs to be clarified and cleansed within you. Trust your intuition. Work on it. Believe in yourself. You are the master of your life, the master of your unique path to love and freedom.”

www.jeshua.net/healing/healing6.htm

“Ascended Master Jesus Christ has described in a channelling that ‘walking the straight and narrow road’ when erroneous and negative energies arise, is to: 1) acknowledge the existence of the painful, or negative, energies within your emotional and physical bodies; 2) choose to experience them fully without harming yourself or others; 3) continually hold, in the back of your awareness, the knowing that these energies are not your Divine Truth. They are simply old karmas, the products of former experiences, or erroneous ego energies, that you are choosing to experience fully in order to allow them to clear. By doing so, you will transcend your identity with them as your truth. Therefore, when you find yourself feeling ego resistance, blame, distrust, judgement, or are in any state that is less than your Divine Truth, you can choose to be responsible for feeling it fully without denial and repression; and to not project it onto others around you. In a sense, a large portion of the spiritual path is to retrieve misplaced identity and return to Divine Truth, knowing that you are a part of God/Goddess.” (www.amorahquanyin.com/articles/a_ascended.htmlwww.amorahquanyin.com/articles/a_ascended.html).