Early Monstaville Appendix II (2006/5) Removed from Book

Appendix II

Related articles, notes and other items: 2006-07

2006

“Simon Blake, spokesman for the Anti-Bullying Alliance, said: ‘There is sometimes a reluctance for people to acknowledge there is an issue of bullying. There isn’t a school in the country, as far as I know, that doesn’t have some sort of bullying at some time.’ He said the tendency of some schools to ignore evidence had its roots in the old attitude that bullying was ‘just a phase’ and would pass if a child ignored it or fought back. ‘We’ve still got that funny culture where we think it’s either character-building, or it’s a fact of life, or it will go away, or they are just teasing,’ he said. ‘But when you are 14, that’s a really big deal. What we’ve got to do is think about it from the children’s perspectives.’ Homophobic bullying, when children use ‘gay’ as a term of abuse, is causing problems even after the repeal of Clause 28, which banned promotion of homosexuality and made many schools reluctant to tackle the problem for fear of legal action. Mr Blake said: ‘It’s clear you can’t say racist things but you can get away with saying, ‘You are gay.’ People feel less confident about how they should be addressing it.’ The charity ChildLine took almost 33,000 calls about bullying over the last school year - up from 31,000 the previous year. More than half of victims said they had been physically attacked.” (Dominic Hayes, Education Correspondent, Evening Standard, 20 February 2006, p.20).

“A woman bullied at primary school is to get a £20,000 payout. Sophie Amor, 23, said her ordeal at St Peter’s Church in Wales School, in Blaenavon, Gwent, had ruined her life. Her family believe it is the first payout over school bullying in the UK. Ms Amor went to St Peter’s aged five to 11...The trauma was so bad she says she is now housebound.” (ibid, p.20).

“Sophie Amor, who left the school 12 years ago, said daily torment at the hands of playground bullies ruined her life. Describing her win, the 23-year-old said: ‘It’s not about the money, it’s about justice. I just don’t want any other kids to go through what I did...The abuse started as cruel remarks about her weight but led to spitting, hitting and teasing. She needed six stitches around her eye after being pushed to the ground. Miss Amor said: ‘I used to dread going I every day. I couldn’t walk down the school corridor without a snide comment being made, or being given a push to get me out of the way. An average day would be suffering panic attacks and palpitations in the neck.’ She tried to kill herself when she was nine by taking an overdose of epilepsy drugs. At 14, she was diagnosed with depression and taken out of mainstream school and has since relied on her family for everything. She said: ‘I wouldn’t call what I have a life. I just exist.’ The case was due to be heard in court but Miss Amor’s lawyers agreed the £20,000 out-of-court settlement with Torfaen county borough council shortly before the hearing.  The council said: ‘We have not accepted liability. The matter was dealt with by our insurers, who made a settlement to resolve the matter and to minimise costs.’” (Suzy Austin, Metro, 21 February 2006, p.15).

“A Police officer killed herself after being bullied in an elite firearms unit, an inquest was told yesterday. PC Paula Tomlinson, 35, was found hanged at the home she shared with her police officer husband Jim Collins I Birkdale, Merseyside, in 2004. Her family told a coroner she died after she was bullied by fellow firearms officers in Merseyside when she complained about them watching a porn film during a training session. Two inquiries failed to find any evidence of wrongdoing but now her relatives are trying to use European human rights laws to have details of the alleged bullying revealed at the inquest. Jeremy Baker QC, for the family, spoke of a ‘long-standing culture of discriminatory bullying’ in the firearms department.” (ibid, p.15).

‘People have no idea of the impact they have emotionally on others when they steal their pets - it’s heartbreaking.’ (Dr David Bull on The Wright Stuff, Channel 5, 22 February 2006).

If you wish any harm to animals whether domestic pets or living in the wild you are the enemy, the foe of society and you are therefore the one who must be defeated and prevented from hurting others.

Notes from ‘ChildLine: Someone You Can Talk To.’ (BBC1, 8 March 2006).

The charity ChildLine provides good support for children except when the police are called and children are taken home and the situation is made worse. They are punished as a result of trying to get out of it. The child is tortured when the family hear he or she has been talking to the authorities.

There is too much paedophilia. The media is for adults so it goes on about the importance of the family, the unity of the family. It is not dealing with, or acknowledging, the bad behaviour of adults, including that of parents towards children. If you say you will refer the child to the authorities the child will put the phone down.

What the child would have to go through during the process of conviction: is it for his or her benefit (justice/closure) or the counsellor’s? If there is a lot of hardship and little result, then this is more damaging. You have to work in the way the child needs you. You have to work with them.

There is much suspicion of the legal system. But the legal system has been changed in the last 20 years. It is easier to take action now. You have to treat children differently. They must be allowed to give evidence. This is taken seriously now. Previously, the legal system considered it dangerous to believe a small child giving evidence. The world is run by adults who have failed to protect them because in a family of abusers the children expect all adults to abuse them at some point. A child’s abusers had made him believe and expect this.

It is a grooming process by the parents, or just the father: a touch, a word, here, there, little and often. Finally, they will threaten to kill the child and tell him or her ‘No-one will believe you.’ They will go right into her face, saying, ‘You know I can kill you.’ In a child’s mind, her mother knew what was happening and let it happen. A child thinks things are normal. Only when you get older do you know it is not.

Do what you say you will to receive the child’s trust. It is important that adults believe the child. Most cases that go to ChildLine don’t reach the court. Society fails to deliver justice to the children who need it most. Prosecution is no good for children who have been subjected to bullying and intimidation. As in most other countries, a child shouldn’t need to appear in court. Children must be carefully interviewed close to the time.

Comedian Ross Noble says he recently met a drug dealer in an alley way: “I thought of something funny to say and he was quite clearly a very dangerous man and, er, you know. But, I was torn, cause I was thinking, ‘this is hilarious’ (holds up his right hand) - ‘I might die’ (holds up his left hand), you know, and that’s a real...oh, you know. I think, if you think of something funny to say and you don’t say it for any particular reason, and you just think, ‘Oh, I better now say it,’ that’s the worst crime you can...other than murder, that’s probably a bit worse. I just think, I think doing that is a bit like having laser eyes, laser vision, and then only ever using it to heat soup. Do you know what I mean? It’s like a waste, you know. ‘There’s a child in trouble - quickly!! ‘Hang on a second’ (bends down and pretends t use his laser eyes) - ‘I’ve got some lovely lobster bisque on the go.” (‘Sonic Waffle,’ the last show of the tour, Channel 4, 12 March 2006).

“You get drunk, you hurt people and then you try and get them to hurt you back.” - So that it relieves the wallowing in guilt. (Grant Mitchell to his brother Phil in Eastenders, March 2006).

“Ofsted has reported improvements in classroom behaviour this year, but there should be no complacency about tackling bullying. All children must know right from wrong, and that there will be consequences for crossing the line. It is compulsory for schools to have policies to prevent and tackle bullying, and we have equipped them with proven strategies developed by major anti-bullying experts, as well as hard-hitting measures including parenting orders and permanent exclusion. Measures in the Education Bill, including a new legal right to discipline, weekend detentions, and fines for parents, will send a strong message to pupils and parents that bullying and failure to take responsibility for tackling it will not be tolerated.” (Jim Knight MP, Schools Minister, The Independent, 18 May 2006, p.2).

“Bullying complaints to the children’s charity ChildLine have risen to record levels. More than 37,000 young people rang about the problem in the 12 months to the end of March - up 12 per cent on the 32,500 calls the previous year. Almost a quarter of all calls were about bullying, while a further 4,000 children went on to mention bullying. Nearly 3,000 children a year called because they were victims of homophobic bullies.” (Metro, 29 August 2006, p.2).

“Thomas Noel told me you once saved him from being stabbed. ‘What nonsense. Some young fools went for us after we left a restaurant, and one of them had a knife. Just because a chap’s waving a knife at you doesn’t mean he’s going to use it. I disarmed him by grabbing the blade - a trick I learnt when I was detained by Her Majesty in Wandsworth. Grab the blade and the attacker can’t slash you. The mugger’s accomplices ran off into the darkness and I gave the chap a good dusting. It was probably frightening for Thomas because he’s not used to that sort of thing. I don’t suppose the Duke of Norfolk would run at him with a knife.’” (Telegraph Magazine, 24 June 2006, p.29).

2007

The Wright Stuff (Channel 5, 18 May 2007). ‘Women are more likely to lose their tempers than men (well, in Britain, at least). The ‘fairer sex’ is also the angrier sex. Women are more likely to feel angry and persistently frustrated (perhaps because our culture seems to demand the expression of more masculine energy which is more alien and harder to control for men, let alone women, but perhaps easier for them to suppress it...which then leads to explosive behaviour).

You lose the argument the minute you shout, using volume as a battering ram. It is childish, weak and intimidatory - regressive and selfish, trying to frighten the other person to back down. When an enemy is angry they make mistakes - so you’ve won if you make them angry. Tantrums are for children. It is a kind of bullying - idiotic. Once you show how riled you are, you look silly. They’ve got you under the skin and can pull you in. Once you lose control, you lose control of your argument.

The answer lies not in shutting down your emotions but controlling them. People who are cool, calm and collected won’t rise to the bait.

People are stressed and angry owing to pressure at work. So, they are losing it and their kids become angry people.’

‘A real Rocky Horror at the hands of thug’: “A thug is facing jail after launching a violent attack on a raunchily-dressed group heading to the Rocky Horror Picture Show. Kelvin Stevens lashed out after hurling homophobic abuse at a group of men and women who were dressed in fishnet tights, suspenders and high heels for the cult cross-dressing show [which has become traditional dress for performances of the show]. The burly electrician called the group ‘a load of fags’ before head-butting and punching Barry Giles [he ‘landed several heavy blows’ on him], who was at a distinct disadvantage as he was tottering on stiletto heels...The fight in the centre of Cambridge was caught on CCTV and Stevens, who works in the city but lives in Basildon, Essex, was traced and arrested a short while later at a nightclub...The attack, which happened on May 21, was not officially classified as a homophobic assault because the Rocky Horror fans were only dressed up as transvestites.” Both attacker and victim are 23 years old. But a spokesman for gay rights group Stonewall praised police for arresting the culprit after he hurled anti-gay abuse. He said: ‘It’s encouraging that the police are taking this seriously.’” (Anne Campbell, Metro, 30 May 2007, p.21).

Family secrets. ‘The violent bully who drove me to the edge. My first husband abused me physically and emotionally, but our children will never know, says an anonymous reader.’ (The last half of the article). “Why did I not leave? They seem such silly reasons now. I had nowhere to go. I one tried to escape with the children to my mother’s but he came after us, banging on the doors and windows like a madman. I took the children home on his promise that he wouldn’t attack me, and it all started again. Secondly, I thought that there was still a person that I loved inside the monster I lived with, and that if I could just act how he wanted me to, everything would be all right. Thirdly, I didn’t feel I was a ‘proper person.’ Every single bit of self-belief or self-esteem was gone. I was worse than a drudge or a doormat. Physical and sexual abuse goes on and on. There is degradation and humiliation all the time but, deep inside, you always feel that it’s your own fault, that you must have wanted it in some unknown way or that you colluded in it - because you allowed it to happen. Therefore you are guilty. I found my strength after driving our car in the pouring rain one thundery night, with the aim of smashing it t speed into a wall and killing myself. I couldn’t do it because of my children. My heart broke that night. But it was to be my epiphany. The next day, when he arrived home from work, in the usual rage, I stood up straight and I heard words coming out of my mouth. ‘I’m not playing this game any longer.’ Once it had been said, there was no way of going back. He was stunned. Those words were really all it took. Now, years later, happily settled in a loving second marriage, and a grandmother several times over, I still hide this secret. I couldn’t bear my children to learn the truth of all that went on between me and their father, the father they still see. Nor could I bear to share it with my loving husband. When I see stories in the paper of girls driven to do dreadful things by the men in their lives, I understand the place they are in completely. And I know exactly why they can’t get out.” (Times 2, The Times, 5 September 2007, p.6).

In Touch with Raynor C. Johnson by Sheila Gwillam (Light Publishing, London, UK, 1996).

People projecting their negativity on to other people.

p.185. “This is what we humans tend to do to one another. It is much easier to look at someone else’s failings and concentrate on them rather than look at one’s own, because someone else’s failings always look much worse; because you know a little bit more about why you did something, but we very rarely know the whole reason why another person does something.”

p.185. Discussing the murder of the Bulger child Johnson says the attackers probably “had some shadow figures urging them on and the boys followed impulses without fully realising. You know how things escalate and once you get two or three in a group, they follow. It’s as though their energies collect together and with the others being around them, they seem to follow the impulses more; they follow their sudden thoughts. Their backgrounds were not very stable, they are not stable and the families were not stable, therefore they follow. Their minds are like butterflies.”

[Two ten-year-old boys killed Jamie Bulger on 12 February 1993 when he was just about to turn three. They had taken him from a shopping centre in Liverpool whilst truanting from school. Their brutal torture of the child during a two-and-a-half mile walk prior to killing him was grotesque].

p.173. “These are beings who are still caught up in negative vibrations and cannot see the reason for moving away and they tend to hover around the earth planet. They are rather locked in on the thought-forms, if you like, and they try to draw satisfaction in a rather nebulous fashion from people who are still in the physical body. They draw close and can become lodged in your auras if you are not aware.”

Question: “What is Kryon's explanation for all these young girls being kidnapped and killed as of late?”

Answer: “It is intuitive of you to ask this. Many would assume that because there are simply more people being placed on earth, that the odds of having unbalanced Humans present themselves is larger. This is actually true, but the real reason is what we have told you before: There is the beginning of a battle of light and dark…of old vs. new. It will represent itself often in outrageous behavior, crimes against the innocent, suicide, and abuse to animals. It is a way of saying that the fence-sitting is over. Those who have these tendencies will find them following them…giving their power to their inner thoughts. It is also so with the LightWorker - creating spiritual light for the planet which only the masters have been able to do before. So, what you are seeing is proof that the pendulum has begun to swing and solidify the dark and the light within the Human soul. Do not fear this, for you are in control! Light transforms and transcends the darkness. Stand in the light!” - Kryon (www.kryon.com/inspiritmag/archives/Q-A%20archives/2002-Q&A/Q&A-11-1.html, Updated on 1 November 2002).