Monstaville Book III. Appendix XI

Appendix XI

“Only a man who has felt ultimate despair is capable of feeling ultimate bliss. It is necessary to have wished for death in order to know how good it is to live.” - Alexandre Dumas (The Count of Monte Cristo).

‘Six Steps to Truly Enjoying Life’ by Salem (channelled through Diandra, 1996, revised and edited July 2009, www.inwardjourney.com/articles/arttemp.php?article_id=1996007. I highly recommend reading the full article).

[The last two steps].

Give of Yourself Without Conditions or Expectations.

You have to be willing to give of yourself to others without conditions and without expectations. The giving is not about what you do for others but what you do for yourself. If you cannot truly allow yourself to totally empty everything that is good within you to your brother or sister then you do not give it to yourself. If you cannot give to others without conditions and expectations, then first of all, you have not detached in your giving. You are instead manipulating and controlling and not truly giving of yourself.

Before you can understand the power of giving to yourself the gift of enjoying life, you have to also be willing to give of yourself to others. Be willing to give to others and to yourself without conditions and without expectation.

So the next time you are feeling generous and give of yourself in any manner - of your time, your money, your love, whatever that may be - stop a moment and think. Is this totally unconditional or do you have some expectations of what will be returned to you?

Now, what is wrong with expecting something to be returned? Well, the problem is your perception of expectations. You see if you give without expectations, you will receive far more because you will not be limiting what comes back to you. When you have an expectation or a condition, it comes from your pain of your ego system’s lifetimes of experience. But when you totally give without conditions, without expectations, then you allow the universe to return your giving many times over. Because your expectation of what should be returned, is most likely limited to what the universe would give to you.

Also, you may be depending upon another person who is struggling in their system of pain and thus not capable of meeting your expectation. You then become disappointed and disillusioned and may decide, ‘I just won’t give any more. That doesn’t work for me.’ But you see you were not giving to begin with but rather sharing of yourself that you might receive rewards. That will never open you to enjoy life because you have the need to control from your limited perceptions.

Instead truly empty yourself, giving everything you have of yourself. Now, that does not mean giving all of your assets or all of your time, but if you hand someone a dollar bill as a gift, empty yourself of the Love that is in you and bless that person to the most wonderful space of Love, understanding, and beauty.

It doesn’t matter what you give. Maybe you see a person who is having a bad day and a smile may mean more than a check for an enormous amount of money. You can always give a person a smile. And when someone seems to be taking their frustrations out on you, triggering all those little points of pain in you, what an opportunity to heal, and all you have to do is empty yourself of your Love to that person. You need not say a word, maybe smile and send them love unconditionally. They would not be acting this way if they were not in a lot of pain.

You cannot enjoy life so long as your exchange with others (humanity, nature, or animals) comes with conditions and expectations because they will never be met. You will be frustrated. You will always be looking for those expectations to be fulfilled by some means. But when you can just give, richly give, without expectations and conditions, you open the universe to pour blessing upon blessing on you and you begin to truly feel the joy of living.

Open to Give and Receive Love

You may say, ‘I love.’ Again we are not speaking of conditional love, emotional love, or the love that has expectations and conditions. This step is similar to the step ‘give of yourself.’ They are very close, except sometimes it is more difficult for you to receive your Love than it is to give your Love. So open yourself to share your Love but also open to receive Love. And I can hear you think, ‘I did that once, and I got the shaft.’ Well, you had love with conditions and expectations. The ego is very afraid to truly open to giving totally of your Love whether it is returned or not.

Think of a person who has created a difficult time in your life. Maybe it was a co-worker or boss, maybe it was a neighbour, or maybe it was someone closer to home. But think of that person and how you responded to that person. Now, wonder what would have happened if both of you had just opened your hearts and Loved each other just as you were. Not because either of you were going to change. Not because it was going to make a difference. But if every time you saw or thought of that person with all of their demonstrated pain that seemed to be focused right on you; you had just opened your heart and saw them as this perfect being of the universe and loved them as you would Jesus, Buddha, your best friend, or intimate lover; loving them beyond your understanding of love; what do you think might have happened? Well, it may not matter now because perhaps that opportunity is gone, but you will create another opportunity to give Love again. .

The next time you perceive someone making your life difficult, love that person unconditionally. Love unconditionally not to make you a saint or a hero, or a ‘good’ person, or because the rules say you must Love, but do it so you can open to receive Love. You cannot receive the love of the universe if you try to contain it, for Love cannot be contained. If you cannot let love flow through you unconditionally to all creation then you cannot receive love because your physical cannot contain the beautiful vibration of universal love energy, but Love can flow through you and in flowing through you it will make everything in your life perfect. You will begin to open and know for yourself the secret of how to really enjoy life on this planet. 

We have told you to remove your judgments, for as long as you have judgements you are limited by them. We said to detach, for as long as you have needs you will control and manipulate. We have talked about living in the ‘now moment.’ All of these things are necessary, but there is a shortcut and the short cut is called Love. But you must first give Love to receive Love. .

When you are able to see the beauty in everything around you, all circumstances, all life, you will be able to open yourself to Love just as it is not because you are going to fix or change someone or something. We would invite you to take some time to listen to yourself speak and think. See how many people or situations you want to fix. But my friends it does not work that way. It is neither your job nor your right to fix anything but yourself. As you do that, you then make it easier for the situation or those around you to heal and become whole. 

The key to what we have said, can all be summed up in loving unconditionally without expectations. When you do that, you are expressing perfection in this universe and that expression will radiate out into other dimensions and around your world. You see you can change this world. One person can make a vast difference, but you have to let go of your fears, your judgements, and your attachments - all those things you feel you must have to be safe - because you will keep creating from the abundance of your needs rather than your desires. Either way, the universe will abundantly comply with whatever you create because that is the gift of the universe to you. 

You cannot enjoy life with your toys, my friends. You can have all of the toys, money, and relationships you want. You can have degree after degree, career after career, but that will never bring you joy: it will bring momentary happiness that the ego likes. But to really enjoy life, living it richly and fully, and creating on a higher level of desire, you have to understand Love. Love is what frees you to see the truth of who you are. When you see that, you would not want to change life for one moment. You would be so radiant, and every situation and person would be of such value to you that your appreciation and gratitude to your soul for your existence on this planet would be overwhelming. 

You can do this. It is not difficult. It is a matter of choice. You have the freewill, the capability, the possibility, and the choice. This is the awakening that is occurring, but we want you to know that it is possibly right now. Don’t think it will not happen until the year 2012 or 3000 or whenever some date may have been established. You can live the glory of your existence as it was intended to be in today’s world not waiting for some grand tomorrow. Oh, things will be different then, but in today’s world you can enjoy life living it with every fibre of your being, for you are an autonomous soul with the spirit of all creation within you, and it is your choice of how you wish to experience and express on the planet. 

We are here because we Love you and see your beauty. The angels are here to help. Ask for their help. Believe in yourself and the miracle that you are. Listen to your own internal guidance and be willing to give to yourself and others without conditions and expectations. Open to not only give your Love but to receive Love as well...and we leave you in Love and I am Salem.

“Your love and non-judgmental acceptance of those who appear wild, totally removed from, and even unaware of their spiritual heritage is one of the most effective ways in which you can assist in bringing about humanity’s awakening which truly is imminent!” Saul (channelled through John Smallman, ‘Ensure that you make available plenty of time to CELEBRATE!’ 25 December 2013, www.johnsmallman.wordpress.com/2013/12/25/ensure-that-you-make-available-plenty-of-time-to-celebrate).