Monday, 22 April 2013

Monstaville Book I. Chapter 13


"There may be times when we are powerless to prevent injustice, but there must never be a time when we fail to protest."
- Elie Wiesel.

21 April 2002.

Was just thinking of reaction. If I encounter Pigsy - when I next meet him. Took an Angel Card from the bowl and it still says ‘Forgiveness’ - the lesson stands! Give up all thoughts of engagement on negative and destructive levels.

“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.” - Oscar Wilde.

“It is constructive and worthwhile to analyse our emotions, including compassion and our sense of caring, so that we can become more calm and happy. Hatred, jealousy, and fear hinder peace of mind. When you're angry or unforgiving, for example, your mental suffering is constant. It is better to forgive than to spoil your peace of mind with ill feelings.” - Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama.

Okay, we can play your game. You scare me then I scare you - or rather get someone else to do it (in front of your girlfriend). We’ll see who scares the easiest.

Be a strong warrior and a practical strategist. Stay calm - stay cool.

Angel Card: Compassion - he’s a monster - a long way astray.

“Remember men, you are fighting for this lady's honour; which is probably more than she ever did.” – Groucho Marx.

2 May 2002.

He made as much noise as possible walking with shoes on the wooden floor in his flat again this morning, waking me up so early (I didn’t wear ear plugs). Angel Card: Light.

Children laugh regardless of having something to laugh at or about.

Just laugh. It is good therapy for you.

How to Direct Your Compassion.

“When you meditate deeply enough on compassion, there will arise in you a strong determination to alleviate the suffering of all beings, and an acute sense of responsibility toward that noble aim. There are two ways, then, of mentally directing this compassion and making it active.
                The first way is to pray to all the buddhas and enlightened beings, from the depths of your heart, that everything you do, all your thoughts, words, and deeds, should only benefit beings and bring them happiness. In the words of one great prayer: ‘Bless me into usefulness.’ Pray that you benefit all who come in contact with you, and help them transform their suffering and their lives.
                The second and universal way is to direct whatever compassion you have to all beings, by dedicating all your positive actions and spiritual practice to their welfare and especially toward their enlightenment. For when you meditate deeply on compassion, a realisation dawns in you that the only way for you to be of complete help to other beings is for you to gain enlightenment. From that a strong sense of determination and universal responsibility is born, and the compassionate wish arises in you at that moment to attain enlightenment for the benefit of all others.
                This compassionate wish is called Bodhicitta in Sanskrit; bodhi means our enlightened essence, and citta means heart. So we could translate it as ‘the heart of our enlightened mind.’ To awaken and develop the heart of the enlightened mind is to ripen steadily the seed of our buddha nature, that seed that in the end, when our practice of compassion has become perfect and all-embracing, will flower majestically into buddhahood. Bodhicitta, then, is the spring and source and root of the entire spiritual path.”
                - Sogyal Rinpoch√© (The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, Rider & Co., London, U.K., 1992, p.200-201).

"You pray in your distress and in your need; would that you might pray also in the fullness of your joy and in your days of abundance." - Kahlil Gibran.

Power of Bodhicitta

The mighty Buddhas, pondering for many ages,
Have seen that this (bodhicitta), and only this, will save
The boundless multitudes,
And bring them easily to supreme joy.

Those who wish to overcome the sorrows of their lives,
And put to flight the pain and sufferings of beings,
Those who wish to win such great beatitude,
Should never turn their back on bodhicitta.

Except for Perfect Bodhicitta

Thus behold the utter frailty of goodness.
Except for perfect bodhicitta,
There is nothing able to withstand
The massive strength of evil.

- Shantideva.

Retrospective inserts.

“Nothing ought to be unexpected by us. Our minds should be sent forward in advance to meet all the problems, and we should consider not what is wont to happen, but what can happen.” – Seneca.

We must expect everything. For, if we do not expect something, then we did not create it consciously as a manifestation of our true Will as creator gods. We are, to hijack Alain de Botton’s comments, therefore injured when something unexpected happens to us because it represents the pain of separation from our true Being and Will. Everything that happens has already happened (in astral form, one assumes). We should see it coming because we know our own purpose and potential and, moreover, we are fulfilling and expressing them.

Human beings have been suffering from lack of perspective, of seeing all angles. We are not conscious enough so we see and identify with one thing (what we want) but do not recognise its polar opposite. We are divided by the ego and if we are demanding of life and other people we may react angrily when things don’t go our way. We feel insecure in our limited, self-centred view of life; it’s dark outside. Consequently, we seek to be in control. Yet, we seek perfection in the wrong places - in an impermanent world.

When we believe in the illusion it is delusion, says Mooji. ‘Are we experiencing our suffering or experiencing our suffering?’


Angry men are dangerous, argues Seneca in his book De Ira.’ “There is no swifter way to insanity” than anger, he said. As a useless, destructive emotion, we should all do what we can to extinguish it permanently, he suggests. When we deny our anger, as the insane might deny their insanity, we provide it with impetus; we allow it to rise up and be vented on others thus enabling it to survive, even thrive.  When we recognise and own our anger we can see it for what it is: an unnecessary, destructive force. As a result of being conscious and present, we are in a position to quell it the moment it starts to stir, before it gets the better of reason and takes over. Anger is but raw energy misdirected. It is the mind which allows it to fire off (and as Alain de Botton puts it, allows one to lose control to darker forces) and it is the mind which can also call the canons off. “Enemies to their closest friends...heedless of the law...they do everything by force...The greatest of ills has seized them, one that surpasses all other vices,” says Seneca. If we expect too much from the world, presuming that which we desire to be our entitlement, we are likely to feel frustrated and turn to anger, reiterates de Botton in his book The Consolations of Philosophy (Hamish Hamilton, London, 2000, p.82-85). It is unrealistic to be so ridiculously optimistic in a world of limitation when it comes to projecting one’s expectations upon it instead of creating one’s world and circumstances consciously. In other words, one has not learned to walk before they fly. Tyrants expect life and people to answer their will but they are stuck in duality, cut off from the whole and therefore dependent on it. Yet they behave, demand and act as though they were completely independent and can do and have whatever they want. They are conscious only of their own ego self and are not even willing or able to perceive others as existing beyond the jurisdiction of their own judgement which, ultimately, is an unconscious acknowledgement of one’s own limitations, one’s fears, weaknesses and faults. But the tyrant does not wish to look within and make that acknowledgement conscious because he, or she, would then have to change and that is what such a person fears the most. It is more convenient to simply and savagely identify with the projection that everything outside of oneself is – or, rather, should be - a reflection of one’s ego rather than a consequence of one’s own limitations. We have allowed ourselves to sink into density and it is our responsibility to climb steadily up and out of the swamp (albeit with help once we apply ourselves). Taking our frustrations out on others, or on objects, only serves to make matters worse by reinforcing that state of tension.

It is almost ‘comically optimistic’ that a person would expect to get their own way all the time regardless of the myriad limitations both within and without. It is “the ultimate infantile collision,” says de Botton, when things do not go as we, in our pride and obstinacy, want and, in our arrogance and hubris, expect. His favourite example is the person who, having lost their keys or the remote, slams doors and has a fit. But, as we know, anger is rarely if ever a pure and direct reaction to external circumstances. Always, the anger is there first, and is simply triggered from the outside. One is already frustrated and angry and read to explode in a fit of rage as soon as a good enough excuse emerges. The only solution, however, is to recognise that the anger is there to begin with and to both find safe ways to release it and diffuse it through awareness and the renewed flow of feeling that should result (and, ultimately, the flow of divine love in the heart uniting us with universal Reality).

The tyrant also anticipates insults and other annoyances and finds all kinds of things threatening because he/she feels that they deserve ridicule and other bad trips. Consequently, he or she identifies with the belief that such threats are imminent. To expectation is added suspicion. When we suspect that we could be targets, the next obvious step appears to be that injury is, indeed, on its way, as de Botton discusses (ibid. p.100-102). Of course, it is anger itself that is the tyrant. For, if we do succeed in ‘overcoming’ this weakness, there is nothing for us to react to either inside or out. Our energy is then less volatile and can be directed positively and creatively for the good of all.

"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." – Buddha.

“But when I asked him to think about the competitors who worried him, it turned out he was making big bright pictures of them looking confident and strong. I simply told him to step in (associate) to the picture of winning while taking the pictures of his competitors and shrinking them down into tiny black-and-white images. He practised a few times until he could do it automatically. The next day he went out and beat his personal best in practice.
                In a nutshell:

                The way you feel from moment to moment is a direct result of the way you are using your body and the pictures and sounds you are making in your mind.

                Now you know how to influence your state, you don’t have to be at the mercy of others or of circumstances to make you feel a particular way. By taking responsibility for the pictures in your mind, the things you say to yourself (and how you say them), and the way you use your body, you can now begin to choose how you want to feel in any situation.”

                – Paul McKenna (Change Your Life in 7 Days, Bantam Press, London, U.K., 2004, p.66-67. McKenna goes on to discuss the Inner Critic, offering a valuable reminder not to presume that, simply because we have a voice in our head, we have to listen to it, and that “criticism is meant to be constructive.” He quotes Cheri Huber: “That voice inside your head is not the voice of God. It just sounds like it thinks it is”).

ABe what you wish others to be.@ - Alma Gygi (Gifts That Reach Beyond The Sundown, UT., U.S., 1975).

“The importance of healthy boundaries can’t be overstated. It’s up to you to be clear about what feels right and true for you. Only then can you communicate your boundaries to others, rather than hoping that they figure them out for you. They won’t, and it’s unkind to ask them to try. It’s far more loving to be clear and direct than it is to beat around the bush being vague or passive-aggressive in an attempt to manipulate others into meeting your needs.
                Getting in touch with your boundaries is actually simpler than it sounds. Usually, a boundary has been crossed or ignored if you find yourself feeling irritated, angry or frustrated. When these feelings arise, simply check in with yourself and ask a few questions:

Have I said yes when I mean no?
Have I failed to express my need?
Have I gone along with something that doesn’t honour my Spirit?
Have I stayed in a situation when my Spirit wanted to leave?
Am I willing to change that now?
Have I made a decision that will take the pressure off?

                These simple questions begin to work your awareness muscles and help you better tune in to what’s kind and loving to your Spirit.
                The moment you do what feels kind to Your Spirit, the Universe will help you build healthier boundaries. Until you decide that it’s okay to communicate your limits, nothing can change at all.
                Another way to be fundamentally kind to yourself is to make choices that take the pressure off your life rather than living in a state of constant emergency and drama as you move from day to day. Kindness is rooted in being practical. The more grounded and realistic you are in your commitments, the less stressed-out you are – hence, the more peaceful and kind you can be.”

                – Sonia Choquette (The Answer Is Simple…love yourself, live your spirit, Hay House, Inc., Carlsbad, CA., U.S., 2008, p.174-175).

“Laughter is the best medicine.”

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